5 Reasons Strong, Sensitive Men Are The Best Men To Love
Men used to bring home the bacon and work out their bad days with their buds on the racquetball court.
These days, men spend more time with the woman they love, but expect more give and take now. Men want help earning the salary that puts those delicious vegan meals on the table. They might even prefer fixing dinner themselves, while you go out and conquer the job market.
We’re seeing men like this more and more. And while we, as women, say we long to date progressive, well-rounded men in equal relationships, sometimes actually doing so proves more difficult than we realized. Sometimes it’s not easy to let go of old-school expectations about “real men.”
The new relationship rules aren’t written anywhere, so men and women are making them up as we go along. This gets confusing and complicated when we’re not sure if our guy is the old-school strong and silent type — or if he’s a more sensitive modern man.
So here are a few things to help you navigate a relationship with a strong man who is also sensitive:
1. He cares about animals and children. Yep, he likes traditional “guy stuff” but he also enjoys hanging out with his nieces and nephews. He might also volunteer for the local animal welfare organization. Respect both sides of his interests.
2. He might pull away to hide feelings (but he still has them). Men aren’t as likely to eat a pint of chocolate ice cream or talk to friends for hours about their feelings when upset. But that doesn’t mean things that happen (at work, with you) don’t hurt them deeply. They’re much more likely to distract themselves or isolate.
3. He takes criticism very personally. Does he stop texting after an argument? Does he leave the house if you’re critical? Just because he doesn’t sound off about the harsh thing you said doesn’t mean your criticism didn’t go straight through his heart, so chose your words carefully (just like you expect him to do for you).
4. He has strong morals and principles. Does your man have passion for politics? Equal rights? Does he hate movies in which the nice guy loses? All signs that he’s sensitive, disdains inequity and injustice, and has a more open mind than you might think.
5. Best of all — he’s appreciative! Of Beauty. Of Life. Of You. Sensitive men remember your birthday, they want to please you in bed, and they care what you think and feel.
Sensitive men are often wittier, more creative, and more empathetic than the old-school alternative (you know, the man who drinks all your best liquor and then boinks your best friend). I’ve known a few of those, but I’ve never stuck around to see how it ended.
So, next time you meet a man who seems to express himself differently … take a second look. You might have to reciprocate more, take the lead sometimes, but that helps both of you grow as the relationship blossoms.