Why You Should Not Be In Contact With Your Ex
Once in a while we all get that feeling of leaving a relationship and thinking, “Well hey we can still be FRIENDS”. Sorry deary that is a long lost road most especially if you left that relationship with a fragile heart.
Your Ex is your EX. Leave it at that. 10 out of a 100 persons would be able to handle that FRIENDS relationship after an intimate relationship, but truth be told, there is still that spark whenever both of you are in contact. The likely thing that can hold you both apart is if one of you is in a serious relationship or married other than that, there is still a much greater percentage that the fire would be rekindled when you are both single.
So if you really want to move on and let go, block all contacts, and I mean ALL CONTACTS.
Well to make it clearer for you here are detailed reasons why you should not be in contact with your Ex
1. The Fire Will Always Be Rekindled
If you broke up with someone you love from the bottom of your heart either through mutual consent or in an aggressive manner, the status of the relationship changes immediately but not the feelings. If you continually meet up with your ex, chances are you will end up falling in love with them all over again or rekindle the fire that still exists even if they’ve moved on with someone new.
2. You Can’t Heal
It is easier to heal from a breakup when you don’t have to hear or see their faces all the time. Memories of the good times you had with them will always find a way to crop up all the time you get to see them or hear their voices. The more you keep in contact, the more difficult it will be for you to stop yourself from loving them.
3. You’d Get Hurt By Keeping In Touch
This is particularly so if your ex has moved on with someone else. Keeping in touch with them will only bring anger and hurt as they may walk away when you remind them of the memories you shared together. This will likely leave you humiliated, angry and hurting.
4. You Can’t Give Your Heart To Someone Else
By keeping in touch with your ex, you’d likely feel bad if you date someone else. When you disregard the no contact rule and stay in touch with your ex, you’d feel like it’s morally wrong to date someone else. And even when you’re trying to find someone or something else to distract you, the thought of your break up will always linger in your mind, making you feel uneasy and miserable all the time.
5. You’d Be Stuck
If you keep the communication lines open with your ex, chances are you’d be stuck in the same position in your love life. And by this we mean you’d always be remembering how much you miss all the things you used to have with them in your relationship. By severing contact with them, you’d be taking an emotional step towards liberation where you will be able to find new and more interesting things to fill the void in your heart.
6. Staying Away Will Make You Forgiving
If the reason you broke up was because your ex cheated on you or left you to be with someone else, it may be difficult for you to stop yourself from accepting their apology, especially if you still keep in contact with them. After a breakup, you will most likely need someone to fill the void left in your heart and if you still hang around with your ex, you might end up hurting yourself time and time again.
7. You’d Continually Think Of Broken Memories
It’s best to make new memories that has nothing to do with your ex if you have any intention of getting back to happy times. The more you tend to see and meet up with your ex, the more old memories will keep flooding your mind.
8. On And Off Relationship
A lot of the time, when two exes keep in touch, they usually end up getting back together for s*x or companionship. This is mostly because they feel lonely and incomplete and they have a feeling that going back into a relationship with their ex will make them feel complete again. However, if a relationship is not meant to be because of differing opinions and expectations, chances are you may experience an on-off relationship which will likely hurt and leave you worse off than you were.
9. You’re Vulnerable To An Ex’s Touch
You probably had a lot of sexual chemistry during the course of your relationship but this is restricted the moment the relationship comes to an end. Unfortunately, when there’s a restriction on a particular activity, it tends to become an addiction which makes you crave badly for it than you did before. If you still have feelings for your ex, something as little as a hug or touch will likely amplify sexual tension which may make you feel attracted and pained each time they touch you.
10. You’d Be Frustrated
Looking at your ex with someone else or staring at pictures of your ex with their new flame can leave you frustrated and annoyed. And no one will understand the way you feel which will make you feel more miserable simply because you decided to stay in touch with your ex.